Mar 15, 2018
Lisa Avery – Show Notes
Originally from England but has been living in Spain for the last 12 years.
Resilience – the ability to bounce back from adversity emotionally psychologically and physically. It is also possible to experience post traumatic growth.
Just completed a three-year master’s degree in Positive Psychology and Coaching. Positive psychology is the study of human flourishing and coaching is about giving the person the space in which to reflect on their narrative so they are able to create the lives they want to create. They work very well together.
When it comes to happiness approximately 50% is genetic, 40% is within our control and 10% is circumstances. This is a very empowering statistic. We can learn how to be more resilient, we can learn how to manage our emotions, we can learn how to be more optimistic.
Positive psychology is not to be mistaken with positive thinking. It is great to embrace all emotional states. By letting each and every emotion in, by acknowledging it, by labelling it, we are actually dissipating the power of that emotion.
Positive psychology is the study of optimal human functioning. It is about taking people from 0 – 10.
Sadness and anger can be natural responses in certain circumstances.
Barbara Frederickson – the broaden and broad theory -every time we experience a positive emotion it opens us up to the rest of the world.
We need much more positive in our lives to counterbalance the negative.
Introverts need a little more time to recharge their energy but they are just as capable of being happy as an extrovert.
Quality and not quantity when it comes to close friendship. It is important to connect at a deep level. It is not about the number of people we know but the quality of the relationship and the level of openness that we have in those relationships.
Acronym PERMA - positive emotion, engagement, relationships, meaning, achievement. Need to find balance in each of these aspects of our lives.
Hedonic happiness which is about pleasure and eudemonic which is deeper and more meaningful.
Growing with Gratitude is a positive mental health programme for young people. 10-week programme in primary school. Began in Australia. Excellent feedback – happier children, more peaceful classroom environment, spills over effect into families and into the community. Positive domino effect. Lisa is introducing this into schools in the UK but the programme is worldwide.
Australia and North America are both pioneering countries in terms of resilience and other mental health programmes in schools.
The first step towards a journey of resilience is to get to know yourself at a deeper level. A tool from the University of Pennsylvania is called the VIA Character Strength Survey. Ranks the 24 human character strands. When you begin to have an idea of your strengths you can understand how you use them in your life.
Then look at the acronym PERMA and see where you might have an imbalance.
Journaling you can help you process your emotions very effectively.
Another exercise is to write about your future life in the present tense as though you are already living the life over four consequent days. This helps people to feel more motivated and resilient.
Also remember to deeper your relationships to ensure you have a few high-quality friendships.
It is good to come to a point of real self-knowledge and self-compassion. Also cultivate a growth mindset. See any mistake or error as simply learning. What would I say to a good friend if they made the same mistake? Try and imagine saying those words to yourself.
Learn not to take yourself too seriously.